The story is a literal manual on how to date and successfully indulge in a sexual relation ones date. It is mostly directed to college readers since the language and context used relates to the given audience in contrast to adults. The author suggests that one should make sexual moves after the rest of the family has turned in and after offering the excuse that one is sick. Diaz states that mothers tend not to believe their sons but all the same leave them at home in such instances. Young men are also charged with the need to hide specific things that might embarrass them before the girls, for instance old family photos and smelly clothes. Diaz also gives a description of how different girls will respond to various sexual connotations and actions and how the males should handle the given situations. The story is quite stereotypical and is full of subjectivity as opposed to objectivity (Diaz 143).
The story highlights common girls’ stereotypes. The stereotypes are described based on ethnicity and social class. Stereotypes often influence a man’s decisions on how to treat girls owing to the preconceived ideas concerning them. The author offers a subjective perspective on the issue by offering his ideas regarding female actions, how women tend react to what he tells them and how they ought to respond in various situations. Diaz then offers few pretentious instances that he has to play to enable him achieve the main goal. The shifting traits impart both positive and unconstructive influences on the publication in terms of idea and theory credibility. Diaz argues that needs false identity while dealing with an American girl. Some stereotypes attached to this include the idea that White girls always come from wealthy families. Thus, Diaz suggests that a White girl is always dropped by her father or mother on his doorstep. Moreover, when he mentions the type of car dropping the girl off, he mentions high-end vehicles like the Jeep.
Diaz also highlights the ignorance accorded to White girls; he indicates this by the assertion that such females probably give into sex on the first date. Diaz also holds the view that the White girls would then proceed to look into a male’s eyes and say they like Spanish men even though they have no clue of how Spanish men are. The write also notes that White girls love carelessness and often take long baths in a date’s bathroom without a care in the world if they are found or not. Largely, White girls are branded as easy pawns. In fact, Diaz believes that the African American (Black) girls, the Brown girls, and the Halfies as he calls them are not morally loose as White girls. A notable bias is however noted in Diaz’s protection of Spanish women by the statements that they are strict and would not even give a potential male a kiss let alone one touch.
The question of objectivity and subjectivity in Diaz’s story is one evidencing major appearance manipulations to the extent that infusing objectivity seems an impossible action. The story takes the shape of a manual that offers instructions on behavioral patterns depending on an individual’s social class or ethnic background in a dating instance. However, the advice offered in the publication is rendered unproductive on the context that the true purpose of dating is getting to know the other person and not to achieve physical intimacy. Diaz’s morals and thesis in the discussion holds the view that physical intimacy and not emotional intimacy acts as the most significant goal in dating (Diaz 144).
Owing to this, the author instructs the reader, whom he assumes is male to lay repeated facades on interactions noted with females, including hiding one’s true social status, history, race and ethnicity. This makes the potential for either of the participants finding out the truth about the other impossible. Moreover, the writer promotes the manipulation of the given situation towards gaining his physical cut of intimacy regardless of his partners needs for emotional maturity and intimacy. Diaz also demonstrates how a person’s expectations of others are determined by their subjective generalizations in terms of race or social class. In addition, it highlights how individuals try to control other people’s perceptions.
Diaz’s instructional story continues in its task in the second paragraph when he instructs the reader to hide his true social class and identity by hiding the government cheese in either the cupboard or refrigerator. If this is not enough, he states that social class or the race of a girl or date should determine how well the cheese should be hidden. This acts as the central theme in the story. A person, most preferably a gent, must act very different from what they really are. Diaz’s advice negates the reasoning that one should show their true self to the person they are courting. The story however highlights how race and social class constructs have been disregarded by the society rendering such wise counsel impossible to regard (Diaz 145).
Evidence of this is further shown by the writer’s advice that one should hide any evidence of their racial background or history. For instance, Diaz says that “hide the pictures of yourself with an Afro…take down any embarrassing photos of your family,” (143). Diaz also instructs one to hide their ethnicity by saying, “run a hand through your hair like the White boys do even though the only thing that runs easily through your hair is Africa” (145). He assures his readers that following the given advice offers one a very high likelihood of achieving physical satisfaction and intimacy because of the carefully planned subjective impression he displays towards his date. Diaz implies that the hiding of one’s identity is the right thing to do. Despite the immoralities attached to the practice.
The writer’s analysis goes beyond how a date’s social class and race determines the boy’s behavior (referred to as ‘you’ in the story). Diaz also analyses what the reader should expect in terms of the girl’s behavior depending on her race or social class. For instance, he states, “a local girl may have hips and a thick ass but she won’t be quick about letting you touch” (Diaz 147), and that “A halfie will tell you that her parents met in the movement” (Diaz 146). By doing this he does not only discuss how accurate stereotypes might be, but also how a person’s race and upbringing can be used to determine their behavior.
This also illustrates how such influences have undermined objectivity and individuality, thus posing a challenge to various individuals especially males as the advice hereby given suggests that their actions should be determined by social influences laid by race and social class. This therefore, leaves no room for individualism. Diaz’s advice also makes the reader court a racial and social archetype other than an individual’s true identity. By doing this, Diaz promotes stereotyping practices and offers justifications towards them. Advice given to the reader by Diaz is derived from his personal experiences with certain groups rather than from a personal experience with a single individual thus impacting on the credibility issue.
The presentation made to the reader is one that holds non-objective truths. The writer suggests that if the girl behaves in a certain way she belongs to a certain race or social class. However, if a reader is keen to scrutinize the reading and look beyond the writer’s tone, they shall find out that the advice Diaz gives is based on his few experiences with the different racial and social groupings thus imparting subjectivity. The reader should observe from the reading that the writer is not sure of his conclusions and offers a warning to the reader by saying that his conceptions failed in front of one of the girls and she acted contrary to what he believed. “She will cross her arms, say, I hate my tits. Stroke her hair but she will pull away. I don’t like anybody touching my hair, she will say. She will act like somebody you don’t know” (Diaz 148). Here the realm of individuality is more supported than that of stereotype. The girl acts like a person that is unknown to the narrator and someone that does not fit into any of the racial stereotypes that the narrator proposes; she appears like an individual with unique feelings and emotions. Moreover, the affected girl is more than an archetype, a human being, and this shocks the narrator and goes contrary to his advice.
This part serves as a reminder that no race, social class or grouping is perfect or superior to the other. Though the story is subjective, it also questions the mind of the reader in terms of critical thought. Diaz highlights how an individual is reduced to just social class and race and by so doing he poses a question in the mind of a wise reader concerning the validity or accuracy of the reduction thereby given. The story was however a failure on the moral side as it bases its inferences on physical emotions and sexual intimacy; this is because it offers physical associations through kissing practices to the point of sexual intercourse. An inquisitive reader should consider the ways a person manipulates their appearances within all the contexts that the writer discusses. A reader should also review own beliefs on expectations, stereotypes, biases and social and racial divisions in the determination of behavior (Diaz 147).
Diaz’s story is one based on the stereotypes, beliefs and predictions that most young people have concerning women in America. The preconceived ideas might to some extent be true according to common societal behaviors. However, the writer uses them to draw conclusions about girls and advice the reader on taking advantage of the precious knowledge needed for achieving the ultimate goal of having sexual relations with girls. This is poor moral advice from the author however it is overcome at the end of the publication with Diaz offering an educative tone issuing a warning that his advice may not always work and therefore should not be followed blindly.
Diaz, Junot. Drown. New York: Riverhead Books, 1996. Print